Death Is Not a Deadline
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Your story is not the plot, your story is how the plot changed you.
I think a midlife crisis hits you whenever you sit down with yourself and think about it.
Who tells you when you're done? Who sits you down and says, "you've done enough, you've got it, your legacy is set, you're all good"?
Stories are about how what happens affects someone with a difficult goal and how they change.
The best obituaries tell you about how someone changed throughout their life, as they were put up against small struggles [and] big struggles.
Your story is not the plot. Your story is how the plot changed you.